Last week Jessica Rush warned the men in our readership about “crazy B’s.” This week I’m going to give the ladies an insight into the minds of men I like to call “crazy D’s.”
Now D’s are a little different from the aforementioned B’s. They can be just as psychotic, but also have the capacity to be downright horrible human beings.
First there is the topic of sexting.
Now in developed long-term relationships different sexual acts aren’t a bad thing, but if a guy starts asking for naked photos three days into a relationship he is probably bad news. This seems like it should be obvious, but I have had many friends chalk this behavior up to the common cliché of “oh he’s just a guy.”
That type of thinking is ridiculous.
Sure there are times when the horn dog in men comes out, but something like this sexting issue is more in regards to respect. Women should be respected, and this sort of attitude is down right disrespectful. Plus the chances of D’s friends seeing his new girlfriend’s naked body are pretty high too. If the guy starts asking for nude photos early in the relationship he is the quintessential “crazy D”.
Odd behavior isn’t limited to the sexual realm. Just like “crazy B’s” in last week’s column, “crazy D’s” can become a little emotionally weird. Insecurity is a major problem among men, and it can decimate a relationship.
As soon as a guy starts accusing a girl of cheating, it’s time to have a “come to Jesus” meeting. I’ve seen way to many women give up freedom in their lives due to their boyfriend’s insecurity. Now I’ll admit there are times when insecurities are warranted and early in a relationship it’s even healthy. If a year goes by and D is still wanting to see you eight hours a day, every day, chances are he is a little on the unstable side.
Some people may think this sort of behavior is cute, and if it works in a relationship that’s great. The more probable outcome to this situation is a break up. Time apart is healthy and as the old adage goes, it will make the heart grow fonder. A good guy will give a woman the time she needs on her own, and chances are he will need it too.
Lastly there is the bleeding heart, “I love you D”. This issue is not gender specific, since last week the girl I’m currently with dropped the L bomb after three weeks of dating. Nothing will kill a relationship faster than premature love.
Don’t get me wrong. Love is a wonderful thing but in due time. When a D or a B verbalizes these emotions early, it’s not cute or endearing; it’s creepy.
There is no way to love someone that early in a relationship. Chances are if D is saying, “I love you” he is really saying, “I love this image of you I’ve created.” Drop D like third period French and move on. It will be easier on both parties if the relationship ends sooner than later.
There is no easy methodology to dating, but a healthy relationship is tough to come by, especially when dealing with teenagers and young adults. Don’t settle for a D or a B, find someone worth it and don’t be afraid to browse a bit. Just take it easy on the pictures, accusations and psycho stalking, which may occur.